Comments on: Turning Adversity Into a Diamond http://overcomersinc.com/archives/370 Ture Stories of Hope, Courage and Inspiration Sun, 25 Oct 2009 17:21:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Margaret Sarkissian http://overcomersinc.com/archives/370/comment-page-1#comment-34 Margaret Sarkissian Wed, 22 Jul 2009 23:48:22 +0000 http://overcomersinc.com/?p=370#comment-34 Thanks Virginia, for opening up such a good discussion! I recently have learned a very helpful technique for dealing with life's curve balls. Mark Silver (Heart of Money) teaches a Sufi technique called Remembrance, and it goes like this: When the challenge arises, stop, bring your awareness into your heart, and if you have the privacy to do so, put your right hand over your heart. Breathe, pay attention to the feelings that are flying around inside, but don't try to change them. Notice your thoughts, which are likely to be catastrophizing, and allow all that emotional storm, just to be. Don't try to change anything. Continue to breathe, and bring in compassion to this anxious place. Make space for the fear, anger, worry - whatever it is, and hold it in love. Do this for 5 minutes if that is all you have and 15 minutes if you have more time. At the end of the Remembrance, you will have calmed your heart, made space for the painful emotions, and have better access to your innate problem-solving intelligence. Thanks Virginia, for opening up such a good discussion! I recently have learned a very helpful technique for dealing with life’s curve balls. Mark Silver (Heart of Money) teaches a Sufi technique called Remembrance, and it goes like this: When the challenge arises, stop, bring your awareness into your heart, and if you have the privacy to do so, put your right hand over your heart. Breathe, pay attention to the feelings that are flying around inside, but don’t try to change them. Notice your thoughts, which are likely to be catastrophizing, and allow all that emotional storm, just to be. Don’t try to change anything. Continue to breathe, and bring in compassion to this anxious place. Make space for the fear, anger, worry – whatever it is, and hold it in love. Do this for 5 minutes if that is all you have and 15 minutes if you have more time. At the end of the Remembrance, you will have calmed your heart, made space for the painful emotions, and have better access to your innate problem-solving intelligence.

]]> By: Lynne http://overcomersinc.com/archives/370/comment-page-1#comment-24 Lynne Thu, 16 Jul 2009 17:26:58 +0000 http://overcomersinc.com/?p=370#comment-24 What a group of wise people read this blog! Thanks Virginia for reminding us to brainstrom. It is so easy to feel stuck, like you have no options or choices. Brainstorming possible solutions, even if they are silly , can open up your creativity and help you find a new solution that really works. A playful approach to this will give you the best results. What a group of wise people read this blog!
Thanks Virginia for reminding us to brainstrom. It is so easy to feel stuck, like you have no options or choices. Brainstorming possible solutions, even if they are silly , can open up your creativity and help you find a new solution that really works.
A playful approach to this will give you the best results.

]]> By: Kimberly Martin http://overcomersinc.com/archives/370/comment-page-1#comment-23 Kimberly Martin Thu, 16 Jul 2009 16:55:16 +0000 http://overcomersinc.com/?p=370#comment-23 Thanks Virginia, What really resonated with me about your words was around "repeat" challenges. It's amazing that when we pull back and take a 50,000ft view of patterns that exist in our life, we always see that even though the challenge may look different when we're dealing with it, it's usually the same thing coming up again and again. What I've seen is that it tends to go in steps: Step 1: Become aware that this has come up before, after getting through it. Step 2: Become aware that this has come up before, while being in it. Step 3: Becomre aware, before entering it. Step 4: Avoid it through different behaviour. I've practiced this myself with success, but it takes being in a place of awareness. I'm definately best at this when I'm feeling calm, balanced and energized in my life! (PS: And that's a journey, not a destination :)) Thanks Virginia,

What really resonated with me about your words was around “repeat” challenges.

It’s amazing that when we pull back and take a 50,000ft view of patterns that exist in our life, we always see that even though the challenge may look different when we’re dealing with it, it’s usually the same thing coming up again and again.

What I’ve seen is that it tends to go in steps:
Step 1: Become aware that this has come up before, after getting through it.
Step 2: Become aware that this has come up before, while being in it.
Step 3: Becomre aware, before entering it.
Step 4: Avoid it through different behaviour.

I’ve practiced this myself with success, but it takes being in a place of awareness. I’m definately best at this when I’m feeling calm, balanced and energized in my life! (PS: And that’s a journey, not a destination :) )

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